Gail’s soothing voice and the sound of the oceans waves have helped many feel deep relaxation and support you in getting a good nights sleep and feeling less and less anxiety. The more u listen the faster you will fall asleep.
Too often while working with clients as well as looking at my own life I constantly hear “there is no time for me” and we can feel like we are on overload. So many times our work and other projects, family responsibilities as well as other commitments can lead to us feeling submerged and entangled. Our intentions are there to assist others as well as meeting all of our personal responsibilities.
Choices have to be made and a list of priorities put into place. We can get caught in the web of pleasing others and it is great to want to make a difference if you are also creating time for yourself. It could be time to work out, meditate, read, etc. as long as it is time out for yourself, perhaps for a half hour or hour of “me” time per day.
We all understand time management and I sometimes teach it however learning to say no is a very important lesson for each of us and our well-being.
We all have a myriad of good intentions however I know from personal experience and working with my clients that creating that special time is vital. Once you have prioritized and have given yourself permission to that “me” time per day now you can start creating more balance with your families so that the time you do spend is quality. You will actually have the energy to be present and accounted for in mind body and spirit when you are with others. I realize how difficult it can be to say NO. It takes a concerted effort to take that time for you. You will be a happier camper and handle life far better with a more positive outlook. I know I am when I practice this myself.
Take a look, step back and evaluate your life and where it would serve you to say no.
What do a house flipper and a life coach have in common you may ask? Actually a lot, it is all about changes and transformation. In my seminars that I designed and facilitated for over 25 plus years my mission is to make a difference, one person at a time. Each home that we buy and renovate, Joe and I decide structurally what needs to be modified so that the house is updated, improved and becomes a WOW!! Like some of you doing renovation work small essential changes and sometimes larger alterations change the look dramatically and our future buyers can feel good about being in a home that is sound and visually appealing. The staging always makes a big difference and I love doing that and seeing it all come together. I thank my team who helps me with each home. They are a gift.
Similar steps are taken when designing a one or two day seminar to support others and myself in being more aware of our own canvas of life and then transformation begins happening one step at a time. The tools that are used may not be carpenter tools, but are just as essential. Interaction from the participants and my team of assistants gets the seminar to the place of growth and greater awareness. I am blessed to be doing what I love and creating change.
This was my first blog. It took me awhile to just do this, so for those out there like Joe and others who have been supporting me, thank you!
I am reminded of a story about intimacy. I had been asked to give feedback and guide a relatively new seminar leader who was giving a talk on this topic. A large crowd showed up to learn more about intimacy and to use this forum to ask questions and learn. I sat in the room listening as people were beginning to share openly and I quickly became dismayed as I observed the lack of warmth, interaction and connection the facilitator had with those who were speaking. The leader was so busy looking at her notes to see what was next she needed to cover, that she missed what was happening in the present moment right in front of her. Others were taking a risk and sharing openly, asking questions and being vulnerable and still no real connection was happening. I watched as people started to become quiet and began to shut down. You see a facilitator has to be a skilled door opener for people and allow them to be able to walk through and resolve any issues they may have. Connecting the dots in our lives is a completion process that is vital before we can move forward.
I vividly remember getting up from my seat and walking down the aisle of this large room filled with people. The Facilitator was still busy turning pages in her book. She did not see me until I was standing right in front of her. I could not help myself as I whispered without a microphone, just for her ears alone, “How can you lead a group on Intimacy when you hardly make any eye contact at all??”, I put her on the spot and hopefully she learned a tough lesson about being present for another without any distractions. This is the core of what intimacy is all about!
How many of us are texting, or looking at our cell phones, distracted when we are with someone who is talking to us?? How many disconnects have you experienced in your relationships both personally and professionally? If your experience of a person whether they are a family member or not is less than satisfying, how often will you repeat being open and vulnerable with them? We hurt each other sometimes unintentionally by being more focused on something else than those who are right in front of us like our children , spouses, parents, friends and colleagues. We each have a profound effect on each other. Being more acutely aware will not only bring success in every direction, including feeling good about who you are, you will also leave others feeling good about themselves as they have just been heard. What a gift that is for all involved! A real wow!
While leading a 2-day men’s seminar one of the big questions was what exactly intimacy is. Part of my answer wasn’t what they were looking for. Some were surprised to learn that what their significant others really wanted was real one on one time and being heard. Ok they said this is getting good, still thinking we were going farther I asked if they really knew what their special people really wanted from their relationships with them. What was important besides listening skills and no interruptions was eye contact. Intimacy was already being co-created just by being there for each other. There was so much more that weekend however this was a vital piece. Many men and women called to say thank you.
Our presence and who we are is special and not giving the time to others of really being in the moment with them cuts you off from experiencing the true gift that you both could have. In a real sense this is the core of being successful in every walk of life, personally and professionally. We all deserve to be with someone without life’s distractions in that moment! What a difference we could all make in one another’s lives just by being more aware.
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As I watch the changes of the season colorfully being painted around the reservoir that we live on, I am reminded of all the changes we all go through in a lifetime. Change is a constant that we can always count on. Most people do not like or feel comfortable with change even though it is always happening.
We encounter changes on all levels of our lives. Some of us experience a myriad of career changes, relationships change health and loss and gains happen. When I look back at some changes in my life I might not have liked or wanted them all however they all taught me something. One of my life’s lessons came from my Dad. The full impact of what I had learned from him became clearer with every interaction I had in business. My dad was a well-loved and an admired Realtor in our small rural town. He was my mentor in many ways and I am forever blessed with what I had learned just by watching him interact with the public. Dad taught me to respect people from different walks of life and not to be prejudiced or judgmental. As a young girl I watched how kind he was to others. He made friends with every person he met ready to support them with a positive attitude and a helping hand. He was successful, I believe because he created relationships as a primary way of interacting with others. It wasn’t about how many sales he could achieve. It was about assisting others in finding the right home for their budget and their life style. It was for Dad and for me all about developing relationships. Referrals from clients turned into friends made him the success he was.
I am grateful every day for his teachings. Life can throw some pretty tough curve balls our way at times that I know we have to feel and experience, However I learned to create a time line of dwelling on the tough stuff in life and then to move on. I share these teachings in my seminars and with every person I meet on my life path and career.
Change is a constant, filled with varied hues of color and emotions at times. What changes have been made easier by mentors that you have had? Who and what are you grateful for?
A change that I am going through right now is taking care of my elderly mom and watching all the changes she is going through. She has also been my mentor in so many ways, but that is for another post. Change presents the learning of being patient and being present moment to moment. Thank you for allowing me this venue to share some of the teachings I am grateful for.
As I drive down some country roads looking for a house to renovate in your mind’s eye you can hear me asking my dad…. “So dad what do you think???”