When we were children we learned about ourselves and life from the adults around us. As a child, if you lived with people who were often unhappy, frightened, guilty, or angry, you acquired a lot of negative ideas about who you are and how life ought to be.

There is a natural progression in the stages of development from childhood into adulthood.

Each stage has specific tasks that need to be mastered if we are to move successfully to the next stage.

For a wide range of reasons, most of us don't master some of these essential tasks and, as a result, a part of us stops growing. The wounded or handicapped part then becomes what is often termed the "Inner Child” figure that is trapped in that stage of growth.

In relationships, business and life in general, the pain of lost or missed opportunities has a bigger impact than the regret of doing something wrong. 

When you say no to new ideas, opportunities, or people, you miss the chance to appreciate and experience everything life has to offer, which is vital for achieving happiness and success.

Our minds can subconsciously prevent us from accepting new opportunities that are right in front of us, denying us the opportunity to Grow, Improve and Evolve.

Why Do We Do This??

Why do we subconsciously sabotage our goals …our happiness and our success by not doing what we know we are supposed to do?? 

Excuse # 1-We Fear Failure

Some of us would rather take a detour than a step forward if that step involves any discomfort or risk. We tell our minds that we are “ok” where we are, and ultimately never move forward. We remain stuck, going through life complacent. We choose to avoid taking the steps required for personal growth and freedom.

Gail’s soothing voice and the sound of the oceans waves have helped many feel deep relaxation and support you in getting a good nights sleep and feeling less and less anxiety. The more u listen the faster you will fall asleep.

Too often while working with clients as well as looking at my own life I constantly hear “there is no time for me” and we can feel like we are on overload. So many times our work and other projects, family responsibilities as well as other commitments can lead to us feeling submerged and entangled. Our intentions are there to assist others as well as meeting all of our personal responsibilities. 

Choices have to be made and a list of priorities put into place. We can get caught in the web of pleasing others and it is great to want to make a difference if you are also creating time for yourself. It could be time to work out, meditate, read, etc. as long as it is time out for yourself, perhaps for a half hour or hour of “me” time per day. 

We all understand time management and I sometimes teach it however learning to say no is a very important lesson for each of us and our well-being. 

We all have a myriad of good intentions however I know from personal experience and working with my clients that creating that special time is vital. Once you have prioritized and have given yourself permission to that “me” time per day now you can start creating more balance with your families so that the time you do spend is quality. You will actually have the energy to be present and accounted for in mind body and spirit when you are with others. I realize how difficult it can be to say NO. It takes a concerted effort to take that time for you. You will be a happier camper and handle life far better with a more positive outlook. I know I am when I practice this myself. 

Take a look, step back and evaluate your life and where it would serve you to say no.